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I have an interesting thought process that is running through my mind sparked by a friend's Facebook post. "Sometimes people pretend you're a bad person so they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you". I've noticed this in a few people in my life. I find it very interesting what lengths people go to justify their actions in order to absolve themselves from their shortcomings. I believe this action is unconscious. The mind like our body is designed to prevent pain. Guilt can be one of the worst pains you'll ever face. It made me feel like a monster for 20 years. The interesting question I'm running into is how do we prevent this? How do we face our mistakes and leave the victim unblemished without destroying ourselves? How much guilt is necessary? Is guilt necessary?
I believe a certain amount of guilt is necessary to teach a lesson and in order to change our actions. I believe the first step in preventing this detrimental system is to realize that people are not bad. Their actions can be bad and even horrendous. The essences of everyone is pure and good. Our intentions are not to harm. We take harmful actions to prevent facing our own pain and to validate the feelings inside our unconscious minds. This degradation of a victim is a double dose of harm. Not only did we harm them, but now we continue harming them in order to justify our actions. To what end? I know you are consciously thinking that we need to face punishment for our actions and that the truth needs to be discovered. That individuals that do this should be forced to face their punishment. The issue is that truth of our world all lays within our own perception of it. What we see as ugly, bad or wrong may be something of beauty to another person. What I propose although it may sound crazy is to use compassion for both the offender and the victim. We should discover from the offender why they decided to take these harmful actions. It's easy to have compassion for the victim. We can all be angry and want to punish the offender or even kill them, but what good will that do for prevention? We need to realize we all make mistakes and that although not all our transgressions are equal they need to be forgiven. The important challenge at hand is to have love for everyone. Yes, we need to prevent further harm, so some guilt needs to be had. The more important issue at hand is to find a cure for the transgression. We need to realize that we too would take the same actions if we were born and raised in the exact same environment as the offender. To prevent future harm ultimately does not lay with the punishment of one offender. We must use a scientific approach as we would with a disease and cure the root cause. Otherwise we will go further into a world of hate and anger. This does nothing for the future.
I have been told of a tribe in Africa that has used this process and I think we as a civilized society need to adopt their system on a grander scale. They believe that all mankind is born good. That when they make a mistake they have strayed from that path and need to be reminded of their true selves. An offender is taken to the center of the village and stands there for 3 days as other members of the tribe go to them and tell them the good things they have done. This reminds the offender to return to what they are which is good and kind. Let's look at what researchers have found as the best way to raise children. It doesn't help to make them feel bad, because they may accept that they are bad and continue to validate that thought through their actions. The best way to correct an action is inclusion and love. Not to ostracize the offender and make them feel unwanted and unloved. This will only lead to future offenses, because they are now subconsciously bad and their actions will continue to validate that unconscious thought.
Maybe in the future when someone commits a crime or hurts another person we can post their image on the internet and their name and ask everyone that knows them to leave a positive comment and at the same time we can have them see research physiologists to get to the root cause. At the end of 7 days we schedule a time for people to come give the offender a hug and welcome them back into life. This way we are correcting the action with love and at the same time curing the cause. I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject please comment below.
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I have an interesting thought process that is running through my mind sparked by a friend's Facebook post. "Sometimes people pretend you're a bad person so they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you". I've noticed this in a few people in my life. I find it very interesting what lengths people go to justify their actions in order to absolve themselves from their shortcomings. I believe this action is unconscious. The mind like our body is designed to prevent pain. Guilt can be one of the worst pains you'll ever face. It made me feel like a monster for 20 years. The interesting question I'm running into is how do we prevent this? How do we face our mistakes and leave the victim unblemished without destroying ourselves? How much guilt is necessary? Is guilt necessary?
I believe a certain amount of guilt is necessary to teach a lesson and in order to change our actions. I believe the first step in preventing this detrimental system is to realize that people are not bad. Their actions can be bad and even horrendous. The essences of everyone is pure and good. Our intentions are not to harm. We take harmful actions to prevent facing our own pain and to validate the feelings inside our unconscious minds. This degradation of a victim is a double dose of harm. Not only did we harm them, but now we continue harming them in order to justify our actions. To what end? I know you are consciously thinking that we need to face punishment for our actions and that the truth needs to be discovered. That individuals that do this should be forced to face their punishment. The issue is that truth of our world all lays within our own perception of it. What we see as ugly, bad or wrong may be something of beauty to another person. What I propose although it may sound crazy is to use compassion for both the offender and the victim. We should discover from the offender why they decided to take these harmful actions. It's easy to have compassion for the victim. We can all be angry and want to punish the offender or even kill them, but what good will that do for prevention? We need to realize we all make mistakes and that although not all our transgressions are equal they need to be forgiven. The important challenge at hand is to have love for everyone. Yes, we need to prevent further harm, so some guilt needs to be had. The more important issue at hand is to find a cure for the transgression. We need to realize that we too would take the same actions if we were born and raised in the exact same environment as the offender. To prevent future harm ultimately does not lay with the punishment of one offender. We must use a scientific approach as we would with a disease and cure the root cause. Otherwise we will go further into a world of hate and anger. This does nothing for the future.
I have been told of a tribe in Africa that has used this process and I think we as a civilized society need to adopt their system on a grander scale. They believe that all mankind is born good. That when they make a mistake they have strayed from that path and need to be reminded of their true selves. An offender is taken to the center of the village and stands there for 3 days as other members of the tribe go to them and tell them the good things they have done. This reminds the offender to return to what they are which is good and kind. Let's look at what researchers have found as the best way to raise children. It doesn't help to make them feel bad, because they may accept that they are bad and continue to validate that thought through their actions. The best way to correct an action is inclusion and love. Not to ostracize the offender and make them feel unwanted and unloved. This will only lead to future offenses, because they are now subconsciously bad and their actions will continue to validate that unconscious thought.
Maybe in the future when someone commits a crime or hurts another person we can post their image on the internet and their name and ask everyone that knows them to leave a positive comment and at the same time we can have them see research physiologists to get to the root cause. At the end of 7 days we schedule a time for people to come give the offender a hug and welcome them back into life. This way we are correcting the action with love and at the same time curing the cause. I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject please comment below.
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